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Congratulations to Neil on becoming the first person in the Uk to receive a diploma in Civil Funral Celebrancy from the International College of Celebrancy in Australia
September 2008
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
Adopted as Optimist International's creed in 1922.
Forever in our memories
2008
Georgina Murray, Mike Benfield, Liz Hill, Jim Stirton, Robert Black, Catherine Thomson, Isabella Davies, Andrea Reynolds, Gordon Crawford, Baby Andrew McKenzie, Gordon Giles, Agnes Bathgate, Madeline Brown, Mary Johnson, Edward Martin, Ronda Adamson, Grace Nelson, Isabella McLeod, Jim Hutchison, Gwen Mawson, Jean Bellamy, Laura Finlayson, Myra Dall, Norman Barr, hugh Boyle, Helen Knight, Roz Webster, James Harlow, Ian Shaw, Alex Craw, Helen Niven, Rob Fail, Betty Smith, Mina Hall, Ishbel Goldie, George Drysdale, George Baillie, Duncan Reid, George Owler, Loudy Hynd, Don Honeyman, Michael Falconer, Davie Cook, Fay Drysdale, Margaret Hamilton, Ian Cameron, Joan Peden, Morris Davies, Brian Sharp, Maurice Davies, Tom Malcolm, Arthur Abbott, Bobby Love, Maggie Valentine, Dave Thomson, Isabel McKechnie, Lynda Birrell, Bobby Bell, Gerry Greene, Harry Fleming, John Punton, Dave Preston, George Gray, Mary Jackson, Lily Dick, Ken Cooke, May Thomson, Jackie Stewart, Judy Wrightson, Jean Dick, Chris Rigby Scott, May Young, Joyce McNally, Alex Bell, Mary Stewart, Isobell Grant, Jimmy Johnstone, Marion McAlpine, Fay McLeod, Mike Bowyer, Helen Jones, Sheila Forbes, Baby Matthew, Alyson Shepherd, Brian McGlashan, Hugh McHardy, Agnes Watson, Agnes Dyburgh, Keith Mallam, Bill Anderson, Helen Kidd, Ruby McKay, Bob Turnbull, Dave Sword, Alex Bathgate, Linda Hall, Jim Doogan, Winnie Halleyburton, Baby Kerys, John Wallace, Raymond Hull, John Campbell, Kate Greechan, John Miller, Grace Stocks, Ian Kydd, Emily Clarkson, Craig Walkingshaw, Jessie Simpson, George Robertson, Pauline Ellis, Paul Wilson, Jamie Wilson, Isobel Barclay, Jim Hall, George Bruce, John Shaw, Anne Robb, Moira Honeyball, George Angus, Alex Shaw, Stacey Carlisle, Phyllis Harper, John Taylor, Daisy Walker, Robert Duncan, Bill Fairgrieve, Rose George, Sheena Lawrie, John Dunsire, Ena St Clair, Oliver Lindsay, Archie Adams, Andrew Farrell, Robert Russell, Anne Rowbotham, Crichton Ramsay, Bill McGilvray, Baby Kaylib, Sam Crouthers, Janice Dickson, Melanie Sanderson, Cathie Ritchie, Baby Tyler, Gerry Wright, Ernie Philp, David Fancey, Sandy Mutch, Bill Snaddon, Norman Kaleta, Baby Robert, Kenneth Sinclair, May Main, Helen O'Hare, Charlie King, Robina McGurn, Grace Ireland, Peter Gillespie, Jim Robb, Andy Adams, George Cunningham, Fiona Brown, Peter Drysdale, John Spellman, Derek Connor, Sheila Wallace, Barbara Miller, Sean Selkirk, Paul Findlay, Don Rennie, , Robert Cunningham, Ivy Balmer, Harry Bell, Bill Duncan, Margaret Quinn, baby Oscar, Jimmy Knight, Marie McCall, Frank Fusco, Elizabeth Davidson, Joanne McIntosh, Douglas Baptie, Alan Anderson, Barbara Fisher, Dorothy Halliburton, Konrad Hess, Alex McIntyre, Jimmy Bruce, Catherine McLelland, Gertrude Crossland, Denis Geddes, Ron Brindsley, Bill Logie, Rab Mullen, Andrew McKnight, Ina McGovern, Andrea Birrell, Jim Wilson, Felix Rooney, Sadie Pitblado, Harry Russell, Helen Stewart, Brian Edgar, Margaret Watson, Feeme Mackie, Ross Patterson, Jim Williamson, Mary Bath, Tom McLelland, May McDougall, Margo Penman, Alison MacDonald, Phyllis Clark, Wendy Robertson, Martha Smith, Mike Harley, Kenneth Thompson, George Dodson, Helen McNaughton, Brian Ramsey, Roy Brown
2007
Tom Welsh, Alan Broadfoot, Mary Stoner, Bill pence, Bran Digan, Mary Takvin, Andrew Anderson, Shiela Newall, Edwin Reid, George Jacks, Alec Lindsay, David Dunn, Lawrence McPhail, John By, Jen Howie, Andrew Ferguson, Colin McDonald, Betty Jones, Roderick McDonald, Carolyn Seeley, Jom Rodgers, Kevin Cation, Anie Fitzsimmons, Gert Mitchell, Doris Burgess, John Young, Alex Sinclair, Bill Hope, Mary Neale, Mark Graham, Lilian Baldwin, Ernie Rae, Gary Bishop, Tam Davie, Grace Mentiplay, Andrew Sharp, Jock Stephen, Helen Dale, Alex Miller, Chic Galloway, Charles McDonald, Liz Lundie, Elizabeth Wardlaw, J im Park, Elaine Fox, Mary Conner, Cecelia Rice, Michael B irse, Peter Graham, Fred Peters, Heather Colville, Sharon Robertson, Ena Robertson, Louise Gallo, Alf Watson, Tom Henderson, Bill Marks, George Lowe, Mary Bell, Billy Stewart, Bert Wilson, Archie Henzell, Donald Cameron, Kathleen Young, Jessie Russell, John Swanston, Willie Grant, Robert Watt, Bill Kearns, Angela Bolton, Flo McCormack, Albert Malpas, Daniel Monague, Baby Cara Skye Holmes, Jean wallace, Bob Fernie, Alex Herd, Gary Given, Freddie Henderson, Derek Anderson, John Lauchlan, Jock Brown, George Finlayson, Georgina Torbet, Tim Cooper, Bobby Patterson, Jean Kirkwood, Isa wilson, Andrea Storrie, Hazel Chilles, Alice Hunter, Ruby Shaw, Margaret Balfour, Margaret Dickson, Jackie Hession, James Baker, Hilda McQuillan, Alex Anderson, George Chalmers, Ina Slater, Agnes Anderson, Brian McAughey, Martha Livingstone, Maureen McManus, Frances Calderwood, David White, George Christie, David Stenhouse, Anne Beney, Stuart Hutchinson, Andy Gilles, Bill Penman, John Jack, Bill Campbell, Marion Baker, John Gillespie, Robert Wishaw, Dougie Laing, Jane anderson, Liz Oswald, Euan Barclay, Betty Goodwin, Dave Lindsay, Archie Moore, Rachel McCafferty, Don Allan, George Black, Charlie Donnelly, Stewart Wallace, Brian Smith, John Barr, Dave Rollo, Jim Steedman, Harold Sheffield, Margaret McCluskie, Donald Jones, Ian Cumming, Gerald Melville, Jean adamson, Betty Leishman, Valerie Dick, Michael Donovan, Bill Westwater, Dave Button, Theresa Webber, Catherine Wilson, Nancy Graham, Peggy Grant, Angela O'Byrne, Anges Williams, Rena Shaw, Tony Ferrigan, George Stevn, Derek Knight MBE, Bill Lawson, Tony Scott, Agnes Dewar, Chris Davidson, Judith Graham, Frank Martin, Colin Anderson, Marjore Thomson, Jeannie Boyce, Mary Hynd, Les Strang, Jacqueline Manson, Jane Donaldon, Ian McDade, Michael Gardner, Dave Ritchie, Karen Paterson, Tom Henderson, James Wake, Andy Robb, Mark Peters, Sandra Weir, Johnnie Matthew, Mary Duncan, Robert Walker, Agnes Wilks, Alice McKenna, Arthur Brook, Jean Phillips, Lee Christie, David Ewing, Joyce Anderson, Sid Hall, Roy Beveridge, George Russell, Alison Thomson, James Wall, Robet Syme, John Hood, Cathy McMaster, John Bowes, Annie Deamer, James Wall, George Tait, Sandy Reid, Baby Charlie, Robert Hog, John McPherson, Roy Brett, Nell Corani, Helen Kay, Bill Milroy, Mary Ditchburn, Ronnie Ward, Bridget Ross, Jim Peebles, Gerald Durragh, Jack Leslie, Winnie Sutherland, Robert Hamilton, David Pratt, George Miller, Annie Ziligen, Bill Miller, Nancy Brown, David Arnott, George Davidson, Jane Black, Jean Reid, Margaret Masteron, Bill Laurie, Eck Hamilton, Sadie Spiers, John Wilson, Eleanor McQuillan, John Davie, Andrew McFarlane, Eric Falconer, Elizabeth McQueen, Colin Marr, George Russell, Bob Taylor, Jeff Martinson, Magnus Donaldson, Margaret Valance, Helen Calder, Tom Hall, Bob Rose, Irene Bagnell, Iain Ballantyne, Margaret Brown, Jessie Hannon, Hugh Meek, Tom Gourlay, Douglas Sloan, Jim Stewart, Alex Weir, Jean Jackson, Iain Bain, Gina Waters, Mary Munro, Sadie McQueen, Jim Halley, Marie Logan, Tam Robertson, Dot Peace, Margaret Ross, Gregor Anderson, Jim Campbell, George Curran, Baby Cee Jay, Rose Geary, Jim Black, Bill Blyth, Fay Massey, James Rankine, Bill Watt, Mick Harland, John Sneddon, Ella McKay, Eck Clark, Ian Forsyth, Alistair Mercer, Bill McGurn, Jeanette Robertson, Roman Johnson, Rhodda Skene, Jim Gear, Brian Hannigan, Joy Lewis, Jack Wilde, Jim Cockburn, Thomas Thompson, Jim Stocks, Ian Bracknell, David Angles, John Wallace, Harry Gilbert, Katie Bruce, Jim Duncan, Marie Tracey, Drew Loughrey, baby Michael, Bill Rollo, Edward Morgan, Marjory Hutton, Denise Button, John Withey, James Coupar, Lorraine Hill, Bill Napier, Pat Hewitt, Brian Jarrett, Bill McLaren, Kayleigh Menzies, George Marshall, Mary Bow, John Masson, Sadie Curran, Dennis Palmer, Gisela Phin, Sandy Bousie, Tom Gillan, Betty Wallace, Gilbert Kerr, John Ross, Arthur Tremble, Isobel Park, Freddy Taylor, John Thomson, Tom Lumsden, Bill Kerr, Alex Welsh, John Jeffrey, Margaret Paterson, Barbara Baker, Nancy Tait, Jean Dey, Robert Farmer, Elizabeth Gilfillan, Bob O'Brian, John McEwan, George McHardy, Bill Clarke, David Watson, Alex Hunter, Peter Brock, Harry Johnston, Jessie Burnett, Andrew Philp, Robert Jenkinson, Alistair O'Brien, Anne Anderson, Bill Clements, David Gourlay, Isa McDonald, Margaret Gray, Jim Brown, Christine McFarlane, Betty McBeath, Alana Christie, Ruby Clark, Carole Robertson, Danny Goodwin, Tom Kennedy, Colin Clark, Edward Logan, Andy Murray, David Fairley, Ian Ramsey, Agnes Stewart, Davie Wishart, Annie Rendle, Paul Robertson, Alex Corns, Robert McMurray, Charlie Donaldson, Alex Marshall, Irene Anderson, David Pipe, Sarah Goodwillie, Des Innes, Eric Fotheringham, John Lennon, Ken Appleby, Ian Johnson, Cathie Gill, Charlie McKenna, George Roger, Arthur Towell, Agnes Heggie, Annie Schumavher, Janet Innes, June Marshall, Catherine Boyd, Barrie Wood, William Fraser, Gordon Baker, Harry Beveridge, Tom Kelly, Baby Callan David Fyffe, Pete Taylor, John Callam, Lynne Bowers, Isabel Leithead, John Dinning, John McMahon, Andy Lister, Pete Clark, Jurgen Schumacher, Richard Boniface, Mary Crockhart, William McDonald, Dorothy Wallace, Alice Edwards, James Paterson, John Noble, John Sloan.
Poem of the week - I WISH, I WISH
- I wish you would not be afraid to speak my loved one's name. They lived and were important and I need to hear their name.
- If I cry and get emotional if we talk about my loved one, I wish you knew that it isn't because you hurt me: the fact that they died causes my tears. You have allowed me to cry and I thank you. Crying and emotional outbursts are healing.
- I will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs. I wish you wouldn't think that if I have a good cry my grief is all over, or that if I have a bad day I need psychiatric counseling.
- Being bereaved is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't stay away from me.
- I wish you knew all the crazy grief reactions that I am having are in fact very normal. Depression, anger, fear, hopelessness and questioning of values and beliefs are to be expected following a death.
- I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in 6 months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic for me. As with alcoholics, I will never be cured or a formerly bereaved, but forevermore be recovering from my bereavement.
- I wish you understood the physical reaction to grief. I may gain weight, lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, develop a host of illnesses and be accident prone; all of which are related to my grief.
- My loved one's birthday, the anniversary of their death and the holidays can be terrible times for us. I wish you could tell me that you are thinking of us on these days. And if I get quiet and withdrawn, just know that I are thinking about my loved one and don't try to coerce me into being cheerful.
- I wish you wouldn't offer to take me out for a drink, or to a party. This is just a temporary crutch and the only way I can get through this grief is to experience it. I have to hurt before I can heal.
- I wish you understood that grief changes people. I am not the same person I was before my beloved died and I will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to my old self you will stay frustrated. I am a new creature with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values and beliefs. Please try to get to know this different me — I'm the one who'll be here from now on.
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